I had a friend pass recently, unexpectedly to everyone except for him. In the days preceding his death, he passed along a box to a neighbor saying if he didn’t make it back give it to his family. When friends went out to his car to get it in the parking lot, all of his vehicle titles were on the front seat. His home was in complete order, except for his storage buildings which are apparently a complete mess. He was a pack-rat, had multiple items that he had picked up for free or nearly free and had a lot that he had given away but a lot that he kept. He was known for getting amazing deals on everything. He had given me (2) toasters at one time, I think he had six of them. So in cleaning out the outbuildings, his family and friends are finding an abundance of stuff, all crammed in with other things that are possibly important. Which is, post-humorously, humorous. As though he left everything important and the rest to give his family and close friends a good laugh. Including leaving the toilet clogged, knowing his best friend would have to unclog it.
We all have different beliefs and faiths about life after death. We have different thoughts and these get tested when someone close to us passes. We question ourselves, our beliefs and in our mourning and loss, ponder our own existence. Where will we really go when we’re gone and is there anything beyond this carbon-based existence.
My friend was an athiest. He had had prior poor experiences with various religions that made him not belief in anything. Which, in my opinion, is a beautiful place to be. When given the choices of junk, choose none of it. We had conversations. One of the ideas that he liked that I shared is that the universe has an order to it. There is an order that alludes to the possibility of an intelligence behind that order. My astronomy teacher had said that when we looked at the stars and the heavens and how math and physics play such a huge part in our ability to see that far. As we evolve in our knowledge and consciousness and see outside of this planet, exploring beyond our own boundaries and borders, both physically and spiritually, we continue this evolution.
The more we try to define and categorize, the more our definitions and categories will define us and then eventually become obsolete. Can I continue to look at the world with awe and wonder, reaching beyond what I know and giving in to the possibilities? The unknown.
Death is the big unknown. It is the very thing that we will all have to contend with. The experience that at this point, we can’t share with others on the physical plane. Or so most of us think. As the days and weeks go one, I will be listening for those things that can’t be verified but may very well be my friend communicating with us from the great beyond. Or maybe there will be none.
So my message although not entirely original is this “So long Wade and thanks for all the toasters…”